Located in Carlisle Minnesota, between Fergus Falls and Rothsay, Nallely Harlow (Urbano) shares the love of Mexican food with her husband Jesse and their three children. Originally from Guanajuato, Mexico, Nallely moved with her parents to Pelican Rapids which is where she grew up watching her mom cook and care for her family by making all of their food from scratch. Nallely has taken these cooking traditions from her mom and her grandmother very seriously and strives to pass these lessons on to her children. Seventy percent of the food they eat in their household is Mexican food. When her husband Jesse tries Mexican food that he’s never had before he has been known to say, “I’ve been missing this my whole life!” Making Mexican food together is an important family activity. Nallely’s young sons, Romeo and Liam, help participate in preparing food in their kitchen and her daughter, Sophia, has her own miniature wooden tortilla press. For Sophia, who is autistic, there's been more of a journey toward feeling comfortable touching the masa dough used to make tortillas. While once difficult for her, with therapeutic approaches and working together, Nallely’s daughter currently enjoys playing with the masa and Nallely looks forward to her making mini tortillas on her personal press. Nallely has received four different tortilla presses as gifts from her mom. Her very first one was a wooden one that was passed down from her mom. After that, her mom has brought iron ones from Mexico. Whenever her mom, or anyone in the family, goes to Mexico they are sure to stock up on the ingredients they can’t get anywhere else. The most desired Mexican ingredient in Nallely’s household, is a special spice medley the family uses for their mole sauce recipe made by someone in Guanajuato. Trips to Mexico also allow for stocking up on other kitchen tools and ingredients they need for the food they make. This spirit of sharing isn’t limited to the Mexico trips, whenever her extended family finds a dried chili that is more difficult to find in Minnesota or closer to home, they will buy enough for their kitchen and the kitchens of their relatives. Anytime she is traveling to a larger town she will stock up on her Mexican food ingredients at the Mexican markets to supplement what she finds at stores in Fergus Falls (Wal-Mart and Service Foods) or the Cashwise in Fargo. Nallely and I bonded over how it’s a real treat when we can get our hands on pan dulce. On rare occasions when her mom brings her pan dulce “it’s like Christmas!” Especially good because Nallely doesn’t have a family recipe to turn to for these coveted pastries.
The food Nallely shared with me in this image is a chile relleno con queso fresco along with homemade corn tortillas and rice. While Nallely’s mom makes her twist on this recipe, Nallely learned this version of adding an egg on the bottom of the chile relleno, and topping with a red sauce, from her dad’s aunt who taught her this different method of serving the stuffed poblano chile. This method of learning from the women in her family is something Nallely truly cherishes. Though, it also highlights how she feels the bicultural tug of being a Mexican American. Growing up in the US, she often felt like she was missing out on some aspects of her Mexican culture because she didn’t grow up in Mexico. For example, she really respects the written recipe cards that are common to white American cooking culture. However, she has worked to find ways to collect the recipes from her family so as to not lose them. Some of this process is reflected in her commitment to learning how to make the family recipes that aren’t written down. Additionally, while she hopes she will not have to rely on them for a very long time, Nallely has videoed her mom telling her how to make certain family dishes. In the meantime, she too will continue to pass on her knowledge to her children so that they can all stay connected to their Mexican heritage and keep making tortillas from scratch, just like her mamá does.